this woman who wrote about her experience dating my dad occasionally tweets @ me and im like…. Who the Fuck are U
like to clarify, she published a book about the 52 men shes dated, and one of the pages was about my dad, and in it she talked about me and my sister as toddlers, and referred to me as the uglier of his children
In 2019 we grow from sex positivity to sex responsibility, meaning we:
call out shitty people who are just abusers and using kink/polyamory to mask it and stop supporting them
recognize that sometimes hypersexuality can be a form a self-harm for some people
keep kinks and fetishes in appropriate spaces and not bringing them out into general public spaces and thereby involving people in scenes they aren’t consenting to
understand that some fetishes are inherently unhealthy and some illegal to actually engage in for good reason and ignoring that is irresponsible at best
if you’re just starting to get into comics, it can be A LOT, but if you have an idea of what character you’d like to read about, i have some resources:
my new thing has been just… acting on my ideas. like i thought maybe my desk would look better on a different part of my room so i like. moved it? just like that! i ripped an old anatomy book and stuck the diagrams up on my wall like some kind of old timey victorian doctor. i wanted a starbucks and i walked one and a half miles back and forth in a floridian storm and goddamn it was a good coffee. life is too short babey if you think of something just do it. nike
The thing is… If I say I hate babies I’m a monster… But if I treat them with basic kindness, if I hold a baby and feed them and burp them and try to bring comfort because they are tired and mad about it (relatable) I immediately am made to feel uncomfortable, “see, you do have maternal instincts!”
My kindness is seen as evidence against my repeated protestations that I don’t want children. So, as a defense mechanism, it is often easier to just say “I hate kids” and try not to be overly involved.
It is important to understand the distinction between this attitude and reaction and not confuse it with an actual hatred, dislike and maltreatment of children.
I literally can’t even be too nice to my own nieces because it’s just “oh, so you aren’t totally against kids after all.” no, i’m just a human being capable of not mistreating a fucking child, doesn’t mean i have a burning fire in my womb to carry my own someday. hard pass.
Exactly. This post was motivated by a day I spent with my new baby brother, who is only a few months old, and I spent longer than I normally would with a baby. Trying to go to the effort to comfort him to help form a bond I don’t think will come easy with a 30 year age gap.
And even there, holding my brother and giving him basic care… I was told I was being maternal and I should have babies.
I want the big plot twist in Sabrina part 2 to be Hilda and Zelda are exes (not sisters) who decided to still live together for the sake of family/Sabrina and their relationship is explored and they both learn how to be independent and shed toxic behaviours and grow as ppl and the finale is both of them becoming more powerful bc of their own personal growth bc big 2019 energy and I know that this show pays attention 👀👀👀
